8 Ways to Rewire Your Desire for Valentine’s Day
By Angelica Clark
Here are some of the culprits of low libido and 8 ways to bring it back to life:
1. Hormone imbalance starts after a woman passes 35 years of age. The most common culprit is low testosterone, however, the key word here is balance. One must be hormonally and nutritionally balanced to have a healthy sex drive. Not only does testosterone impact romantic inclinations, but so do estrogen, progesterone, adrenal health, zinc/copper balance, proper glucose metabolism, nutritional deficiencies, etc. Working with a holistic health care provider such as our medical team is essential to achieve this balance.
2. Address relationship disconnect. Make sure your relationship is strong and stable. Conflict dampens the desire and impedes the emotional connection; therefore, the physical connection will be lousy.
3. Improve your self-esteem by taking care of yourself. Eat a balanced diet, exercise regularly, make time to love on yourself. A trip to the hair and nail salon is not always a must, but work on your appearance and confidence – this will make you feel and look attractive. A woman who feels desirable feels more empowered and confident, and this enhances her ability to enjoy a pleasurable life.
4. Exhaustion epidemic – too many obligations, overscheduling and burnout. Learn to prioritize, take time for fun, address physical stressors, schedule rest and make time for a healthy lifestyle of proper diet and exercise. Stress causes an adrenal hormone imbalance by putting us on a fight-or-flight response that leads to the hypothalamic pituitary adrenal (HPA) dysfunction that causes low energy and mood crash; this also shuts down the hypothalamic–pituitary–gonadal axis (HPG) which directly impacts our sex hormones and leads to an imbalance.
5. Internet/Social Media: Apart from stealing our time with our loved ones, it exposes us to EMFs which impacts our fertility, energy and hormonal balance. Sometimes we stay in the comparison mode which leads to discontentment and the desire to always want more than we have. The grass is not always greener on the other side of the fence. “Relationship hopping” has caused a void – many are in search of something that will probably never be there. Invest your time, effort and emotions with the right person. Appreciate the small things and learn from each other’s differences. Spend time together doing what matters most. Act selflessly often to focus on your partner’s needs.
6. Discomfort: This is usually present in the peri- and post-menopausal years. Quite often, estrogen and vitamin E support help with vaginal dryness. Testosterone optimization, pelvic floor muscle exercises such as Kegel or Ben Wa balls help strengthen the pelvic floor muscles and enhance the experience in the bedroom. For most women, it seems like the more you practice intimacy, the more you desire it, especially if it is a pleasurable experience. It takes practice to enhance any technique.
7. Eliminate distractions in the bedroom. Make time for each other. Be flexible, be willing to relax and involve all senses in the experience. Different people respond differently. Some people are sparked by sound, smell, touch, romance, etc. Learn your spouse’s love language.
8. Intimacy/Communication. Sharing one’s thoughts, feelings and open communication is very conducive to a healthy, good sex life. Intimacy is a God-given gift, use it. If not, seek help because there is hope. Marital counseling can help you communicate better and learn how to better address your needs and differences with your spouse.
Since this is a love month, I hope this article gives you some insight to improve your love life.
Happy Valentine’s Day!
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